Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?
- Liz Buechele
- Jan 8, 2020
- 1 min read
United States radio host Bernard Meltzer ran an advice call-in show from 1967 through the 1990s. Bernard is accredited with the following quote:
“Before you speak ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid.”
Similarly, there is a canonical quote in the Buddhist tradition that reads:
"Monks, a statement endowed with five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless & unfaulted by knowledgeable people. Which five?
It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will.
A statement endowed with these five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless & unfaulted by knowledgeable people."
The international service organization, Rotary, also has a 4-way test that they use to guide personal and professional relationships. Of the things we think, say or do...
Is it the truth?
Is it fair to all concerned?
Will it build goodwill and better friendships?
Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
It’s really easy to not follow these tests. It’s really easy to say things out of anger or
frustration or jealousy.
In 2020, I want to do the hard work. Listen more and speak only if I can do so in a way that is truthful, necessary, and kind. Always.
Love always,
Liz
On the field, Retro Bowl rewards calm decision-making. Panic leads to interceptions. Impatience leads to blown drives.
Kindness is not always the easiest choice, especially when we feel misunderstood or hurt, yet stepping away for a few minutes to focus on rhythm, color, and motion inside Subway Surfers City can soften the heart enough to make gentler words possible.
Using technology to increase access to youth mental health support may offer a practical way for young people to reach guidance, safe-spaces, and early help without feeling overwhelmed by traditional systems. Digital platforms, helplines, and apps could give them a chance to seek support privately, connect with trained listeners-orexplore resources that might ease their emotional load. This gentle shift toward tech-based support may encourage youth to open-up at their own pace, especially when in-person help feels too heavy to approach.
There is always a chance that these tools-quietly make support feel closer than before, creating moments where help appears just a tap away. Even a small digital interaction might bring a sense of comfort. And somewhere in that space, you…
Detailed and practical, this guide explains concrete rebar in a way that feels approachable without oversimplifying. The step by step clarity is especially useful for readers new to the subject. I recently came across a construction related explanation on https://hurenberlin.com that offered a similar level of clarity, and this article fits right in with that quality. Great شيخ روحاني resource. explanation feels practical for everyday rauhane users. I checked recommended tools on https://www.eljnoub.com
s3udy
q8yat
elso9
On the field, Retro Bowl rewards calm decision-making. Panic leads to interceptions. Impatience leads to blown drives.